Im sitting here on a Monday night watching(and blogging) The Incredibles. Mrs Incredible has arms that stretch as far as needed so she can grab 2 out of control kids at the same time as she yells "BOB it's time to interviene" He doesn't, he has guys night and walks out of the house.. I need either really stretchy arms or someone to intervene sometimes. I usually have it under control but when mornings like this morning roll around, I want to be Mrs Incredible and/or have someone there to intervene. Neither apply so what do I do.. Threaten the kids with some sort of punishment/take away an activity or toy and I send them to school with a scoul on my face and drive away from the school with tears in my eyes. Tears because it breaks my heart sending them to school after mom was angry.. I want my kids to have a happy day everyday so I drive away feeling guilty. Being a mom is so difficult in so many small ways that seem so large at the time.. I love them and want them to have a happy life but I also need them to have respect so sometimes I have to be mean mom out of love.. Just as sometimes I wake up to a mean kid yet I know they love me more than anything else in this world. Wow.. Who would have thought this would be so hard. Im not making excuses or feeling pity on myself because I do it alone.. Its just freaking hard sometimes to not have someone to look over at and say "HELP" because sometimes, I just don't know what to do. If they end up screwed up, it's my fault. Talk about pressure. Ya they do have a dad, and he is great when he's with them but he deals with the fun while I do the day to day dealings that actually teach them the tools to live life and have respect and responsibility. Along with the difficulty of the situation, the rewards are worth it.. They are great kids. They have old souls and all the people that surround them fall completely in love! More than a few of the houses we trick or treated at this weekend had special presents set aside for my kids.. Not candy, Im talking toys.. Bought specifically for when my kids come to the door. I even got a special present at 2 of the houses.. Some awesome retro pink vases for the salon when it opens and at another house, a cute halloween decoration wrapped in a cute gift back, just for me. I have the best support group up here in my town and I couldn't ask for a better place to be as a single momma.. Great friends and family that could never be replaced. Thank you to all of you who have always had my back.. You know I got yours too.
Our Halloween Weekend..
I took Duncan on a Date to the dance production "Thriller". I almost didn't get him past the zombies but once we made it in, he loved it!
I painted faces at Duncans Halloween Party at school.. It was a hit!
And then it was time to dress up and hit the town.. look at these cute kids, so excited to fill their buckets with candy..
2 comments:
You are doing a great job as a mommy! I'm married and still feel like the only adult around. Dads just get to do all the fun stuff. It's really not fair.
How fun are you with all the face paint? GNO tomorrow - still planning on it?
I don't believe in evolution because if it were real, moms would have developed more than two hands by now (or stretchier ones) :-)
The Halloween pictures are really cute!
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